Rainbow Ramblings! (LGBTQ[AEIOUsometimesY]** Thread)

[Rickdaily12]

I'm bisexual.
I guess this is the right place to put this, didn't really see any other threads about it.

Awesome! Glad to see you share with us!

Is this something you talk about IRL? Do you have support where you're from?

[Mace8937]

I'm bisexual.
I guess this is the right place to put this, didn't really see any other threads about it.

Awesome! Glad to see you share with us!

Is this something you talk about IRL? Do you have support where you're from?

I'm afraid to tell my friends about it, since they might make fun of me for it.

[Gobln]

I'm bisexual.
I guess this is the right place to put this, didn't really see any other threads about it.

Awesome! Glad to see you share with us!

Is this something you talk about IRL? Do you have support where you're from?

I'm afraid to tell my friends about it, since they might make fun of me for it.

irl nobody really cares anymore

[Invenio]

They shouldn't care, but my faith in humanity diminishes every day.....
Everyone's situation is different.

[Neasans]

I doubt I could go around saying "hey guys I have this and this preferences" without people looking at me weird

[Mace8937]

I'm still doubting revealing my preferences to my real friends.
But thank you guys for accepting me for who I am.

[KingOfEvil]

I've never found it necessary to bring up my sexuality in the past to others either, unless it was asked or if an immediate situation warranted me telling someone about it. The act of telling others is not a necessity as much as society makes it out to be. Whether it just be one person or many, friends or family, it doesn't matter. This is coming from myself who has only told select people in my life, rather than making it a point to tell everyone that knows me.

For the same reason you wouldn't necessarily tell others your favourite foods, colours, games, etc without being asked first or having the desire to share that information, bringing up your sexuality just for the sake of telling others is no different. It should only be when you have the desire to share that information, and for reasons you can personally justify. Else, forcing yourself to prematurely share that information may cause you to regret it later, as opposed to being fully prepared to tell whoever it is you want to tell as well as having reasonable expectations for those particular persons' responses to it.

Some questions to ponder:

Is telling others necessary at this point in my life?
Who do I want to tell?
What do I gain in sharing this information?
What could I lose, depending on who I tell?
Am I prepared for the reactions if I do so, be them positive and/or negative?

[Rickdaily12]

What happened in Orlando was absolutely disgusting.

I do not have any words, at all, other than anger, disgust, fear, and hatred for what happened.

And I'm not impressed with the stances some anti-LGBT politicians are taking on the matter, either.

[Migzypoo]

I have about 10+ years worth of experiences to share. But in the end I'm romantically straight but sexually bi. (yes it makes sense, I'll elaborate)

Let's start with the beginning.

Spoiler warning as you know, gay stuff inside :/ (seriously, don't read if you're easily triggered)
Spoiler: When I was 16, I was an adorable little good looking nerd who loved gamed and computers. I've had a few crushes on girls but never really guys. However guys never disgusted me either.
So I went to a lan-party once and I found some shounen-ai (16+ gay romance anime) and I mistook it as regular anime. So when I started watching it I saw a super cute guy grind against another guy. I mean, for me it was confusing as hell because I enjoyed watching it! So for the next few months I kept exploring all kinds of gay anime video's. Basically Shounen-ai and yaoi. I basically came to the conclusion that I was bi. However I didn't feel comfortable about the idea of receiving the actual deed. So I was all 100% ok with everything gay related except for the deed itself. It felt weird to me.

About a month later I decided to come out to my friends as Bi, I had awesome friends so they literally couldn't care less. They just went "uh-huh? cool. So about that computer game...". They made me feel really comfortable ^^. on the flipside, the rest of the males at my school picked on me for being bi. But hey, who cares. I had good friends to take care of me ^^.

17 years old - I decided to come out to my parents and brothers. This didn't go as well as I had hoped...
My brothers and dad couldn't care less and were all cool with it. However, my mom was being really old-fashioned. She kept saying I was going to get aids if I were to go out with guys. she sat me down on a chair and kept preaching to me for about 4 hours straight (not exaggerated). The whole preaching ended with her saying "It's just a phase...". That comment hurt me so much, you got no idea. All the other un-true stuff she said didn't matter to me, but to call it a phase made me feel so worthless. Like I wasn't allowed or wasn't supposed to be attracted to guys. Needless to say, I hate talking about gay stuff with my mom. Luckily my brothers and dad don't care and are actually very pro-gay.

18 years old
So I found a girlfriend on some forums and I started dating her. She also enjoyed watching the gay anime's like I did so I was very comfortable with talking to her about it. When we met up and did all the 18+ stuff, I also explored some of the things I didn't think I'd ever do. So apparently I enjoy the "gay" 18+ stuff when I do it with a girl. This was a huge revelation to me. I started buying lots of toys to help explore my sexuality. Lo and behold, my mom found some of my toys... Suddenly I had another 8+ hour preach to listen to. Again, 8 hours was not exaggerated. It took me a long long time to convince her that toys don't cause aids. (can't believe how silly this is.)

21 years old
I found a different girlfriend who was WAAAAAY more into the whole kink stuff that I was. If I wasn't sure whether I enjoyed those things before I did now!

23 years old
I noticed I never tried to date any guys. I thought about this for a long time and noticed that I'm unable to actually fall in love with guys. While I'm certainly physically attracted to a lot of guys, I've never found any romantic attraction towards them. There have been only a VERY few exceptions. But those were super duper cute guys. >=o

26 year old - present
Here I am, giving people a small piece of my life's story. I have a beautiful girlfriend who's basically the guy in the relationship where I'm the girl. despite being a guy. It's really nice. After middle school I don't think I've ever been picked on for my sexuality, nor do I really mention it. Not because I'm afraid or anything, but because I just don't care what other people think. If I were to kiss a guy in public, it's no big deal here. It happens all the time. I've done it before, I think I've even got several video's of me kissing guys at a 16+ yaoi/anime convention (it's just for fun and to rile up the crowd). You'd be surprised how many fangirls there are out there! 0.o the screams the deafening. (oh, and I organize these 16+ yaoi conventions on a bi-yearly basis now )

Also, something important. I've never ever heard of any LGBT community where I'm at. Mainly because gay people have become accepted so much already that there's no need to treat them any different. 95% of the people couldn't give a darn about other people's sexuality. and the remaining 5% tend to be immigrants who came from a less accepting culture. :/ But since they're outnumbered, they tend to keep their homophobia to themselves.

I would LOVE to into more detail in certain areas if there's any interest ^^


edit:
Oh and a side note about the Orlando. I don't think this was really homophobic behavior. I think the guy was just mentally unstable. So he would have freaked out regardless.
It's a horrible thing that happened, but I believe it deserves it's own topic rather than have it be linked to something as awesome as the LGBT-etc community

[Nellyfox]

It was locked and canned because no one took it seriously.

Don't really want to say anything else.

[nebulosity]

Oh hey just discovered this thread. I'm a lesbian, and it's cool that there's at least something of an active LGBTQ community on here. The past few days have been really rough...every time I read something about the victims I end up crying. It's crazy that stuff like this is happening in 2016, and I feel genuinely scared for my life because of my sexuality more than I've ever been...

[JazzMusicStops]

It was locked and canned because no one took it seriously.

Don't really want to say anything else.

Bastards

[AaronC]

It was locked and canned because no one took it seriously.

Don't really want to say anything else.

Oh, wondered why it got locked. I am so glad I never got to see all those responses then. I went to bed after posting that topic and woke up to see it locked.
Glad to see the Gmods are on point.

[Gobln]

It was locked and canned because no one took it seriously.

Don't really want to say anything else.

Bastards

we get it dude.

[Alzar]

Oh and a side note about the Orlando. I don't think this was really homophobic behavior. I think the guy was just mentally unstable. So he would have freaked out regardless.
It's a horrible thing that happened, but I believe it deserves it's own topic rather than have it be linked to something as awesome as the LGBT-etc community :)

The guy was mentally unstable, sure, but his father actually confessed that the guy was crazy and was angry at everyone, all the time, and got incredibly angry after seeing 2 men kissing. A lot of people keep missing that fact.

[Invenio]

Why does it have to be either homophobic OR craziness? I've seen the two combined quite a bit.

But yeah.... this is definitely making me want to go out to more events. I've seen people have their families worried about them going to pride....

[Everice]

Apparently the guy was gay, if you consider Gawker to be a reliable source.
Ban mentally ill ISIS-supporting homosexual Muslims from gun ownership or America is doomed.

[Rickdaily12]

Apparently the guy was gay, if you consider Gawker to be a reliable source.
Ban mentally ill ISIS-supporting homosexual Muslims from gun ownership or America is doomed.

Spoiler: I know that victims of the shooting recalled that they saw him at Pulse quite a few times, he was recognized, and also became familiar with Orlando's gay community via dating websites. But according to his father, he reacted quite violently to seeing two men kiss, and he had more than one wife (one of whom mentioned domestic violence and drug abuse), and then we have the massacre itself.

It's a bit confusing, really. As an assailant, he withstood a 3 hour standoff, multiple exchanges of gunfire prior to then, and he kept shooting casualties and avoided being stopped by anyone for that long. But his knowledge in world affairs was apparently piss poor, even though he called 911 trying to get America to stop being the Middle East, praising other domestic terrorist acts (Boston Bombing), and mourning the deaths of other terrorists who are sometimes not affiliated or even completely against ISIS in some of those cases. So It's not really clear the man was doing anything over the phone besides swearing off America for good.

Then apparently some survivors recount that he was asking people in the bathroom if there were any African-Americans in the stall. Hearing that there were quite a few, the shooter mentions that he had nothing against them because they already suffered enough.

If he wanted to pick a crowded area to do the most damage while swearing off America... I'm sure there were other places to go other than Pulse. He drove 160 kilometers just to get to Pulse, and he targeted that community in specific. It's clear he was mentally ill, but I really think the only evidence (mentioned, at least) toward the killer being LGBT is the time he spent touring Orlando's gay community and the Pulse nightclub.

He more than certainly was mentally ill, but I'm quite sure that the attack on Pulse was motivated by hatred against LGBT and America, twofold.

There was another man arrested- James Wesley Howell, who apparently broke a probation order, leaving Indiana to attend the LA LGBT parade with friends who'd be there. He was found carrying three assault rifles, on his own, though "it's unclear whether Howell intended any violence at the LA Pride event"

The rifles were being carried illegally. Drove all the way to Southern California, violating probation orders. He went all that way, not because he's LGBT himself, but to support his friends there.

Right. Because he's clearly established a reasonable doubt that he was lawfully attending the event, nothing else to see here.

He hasn't apparently been charged with anything too serious, but yeah, this past weekend was crazy against our community. It's a real wake-up call to us; even if we're now being protected in first world countries, there's always going to be a threat of violence, and it's not going to be something to sneeze at, ever.

[Mace8937]

Oh hey just discovered this thread. I'm a lesbian, and it's cool that there's at least something of an active LGBTQ community on here. The past few days have been really rough...every time I read something about the victims I end up crying. It's crazy that stuff like this is happening in 2016, and I feel genuinely scared for my life because of my sexuality more than I've ever been...

Nice to see someone else share their sexuality!
It's good to see people accepting us as different, and not judging us for it.
I am afraid for sharing my bisexuality after learning about what happened in Orlando, though.

[Everice]

I'd just avoid gay clubs for a while.
I'd avoid them anyway on account of my not enjoying bars, and so presumably I would enjoy gay bars even less.

That said, if you must go, pack heat.
No, not that kind of heat.

[Mace8937]

I'd just avoid gay clubs for a while.
I'd avoid them anyway on account of my not enjoying bars, and so presumably I would enjoy gay bars even less.

That said, if you must go, pack heat.
No, not that kind of heat.

I'm only 16, so I can't really go into any bars.
And even if I was old enough, I don't live around any gay bars/clubs.

[Everice]

I'd just avoid gay clubs for a while.
I'd avoid them anyway on account of my not enjoying bars, and so presumably I would enjoy gay bars even less.

That said, if you must go, pack heat.
No, not that kind of heat.

I'm only 16, so I can't really go into any bars.
And even if I was old enough, I don't live around any gay bars/clubs.

I avoid any crowded venue intended for the 'youth' because it basically means shady drug deals and getting my ass pinched by drunk lesbians who think I'm a girl.

[Mace8937]

I'd just avoid gay clubs for a while.
I'd avoid them anyway on account of my not enjoying bars, and so presumably I would enjoy gay bars even less.

That said, if you must go, pack heat.
No, not that kind of heat.

I'm only 16, so I can't really go into any bars.
And even if I was old enough, I don't live around any gay bars/clubs.

I avoid any crowded venue intended for the 'youth' because it basically means shady drug deals and getting my ass pinched by drunk lesbians who think I'm a girl.

In conclusion:
I'm going to stay the hell away from gay bars and/or Orlando for a while.

[Everice]

I'd just avoid gay clubs for a while.
I'd avoid them anyway on account of my not enjoying bars, and so presumably I would enjoy gay bars even less.

That said, if you must go, pack heat.
No, not that kind of heat.

I'm only 16, so I can't really go into any bars.
And even if I was old enough, I don't live around any gay bars/clubs.

I avoid any crowded venue intended for the 'youth' because it basically means shady drug deals and getting my ass pinched by drunk lesbians who think I'm a girl.

In conclusion:
I'm going to stay the hell away from gay bars and/or Orlando for a while.

There's the sad possibility of moral panic induced copycats etc, etc.
Though chances are you're 99.9% safe, it's just a perceived danger.

[Alzar]

Apparently the guy was gay, if you consider Gawker to be a reliable source.
Ban mentally ill ISIS-supporting homosexual Muslims from gun ownership or America is doomed.

Wasn't that something about the guy intentionally trying to get in because he hated gay people that much? Like... it's still not unheard of, even today, for angry straight people to use shit like Grindr with the exact opposite of the app's intentional in mind.